My relationship with my siblings are not bad...
We share our thoughts and feelings together...
We can really communicate well...
But, sometimes, my sister & I will also quarrel and even FIGHT!!!
This time, we fight again...
I hope this would be the last time....
I'm not being coward...
Just that my heart was broken everytime we fight...
So, what is the reason for us to fight???
In short, it's all because my sister's attitude is not good...
I try to lecture her....
My heart is not wanting to scold her...
I taught her smoothly...
With strict words~~~
Then, suddenly my brother said:"I hate eldest sister...She always like to lecture us!!!"
Owh!!!In my heart, I was like...
"Huh???Am I wrong to teach you guys to become better???"
My heart was broken,immediately...
Because previously, when he was a kid, he never talked to me like this...
And of cause, my sister will not cover her hatred towards me...
She expressed her dissatisfied fiercely...
That time, I'm really MAD at them!!!
I try my best to fight over with her with all the possible words that I can think of....
Eg : "You really bring shame to our parents!!!"
I know I sound rude here...
Sorry for that...
After a period of quarrelling...
My sister said : You better shut up, If not I'll beat You!!!"
I replied:" Ok, Let's beat me now..."
I'm not afraid of her...
Being calm and steady~
Sitting down on the floor and continue to do my assignment...
She stood up and....BEAT me!!!!
I of cause defended myself and fight her back with all my strength...
(as we all know, girls only pull each others hair while fighting)
Then my house maid came and split us away...
By tickling my sister...
So that she will loose her hand...
And we stopped our fight...
After this incident, I talked to my mom...
My mom had taught me many things...
She was not scolding me...
I thank God for having such a wise mom~~
Hehe...
I had learnt many things through this "disaster"..
I've always been praying for God to transform me...
The main thing is to transform me from being proud and self-righteous...
My heart was broken and I cried...
While crying...
God talked to me : Don't always have high expectations on others...You just have to expect high on yourself...
Don't always blame others if they don't reach your requirements...
Why don't try your best to meet other's requirements???
Instead of blaming others...
I pray to God to learn His attitude...
Jesus will never fight over when others are scolding Him...
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Broken heart
Posted by [P]inky[D]og at 11:08 AM
About: Family, The truth and teachings, Thoughts and Feelings
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Pinky,
There are a lot of way in wanting a message to get through to someone. It's ok to have high expectation on a person and also for yourself but keep it as a guideline instead of a task. That way things will get so much easier. It's the communication that is very important here. Everyone tend to have different view and opinion, it's just that we must weight it and see whose turn out to be the best in the end. try making sense to them and just maybe they would start thinking.
Let me share wit you what i normally do wit my siblings when they do wrong or when we have a clashes of ideas. I normally ask them to come into my room and chat.
Instead of telling them what is wrong in ur view i normally start of wit asking them why they do so. It's important to know the reason why they did certain things. From there we evaluate and share ideas. Sometimes what is right for us just might not be right for them so instead of arguing why not talk in a peaceful way. That way the respond and message will be delivered and accepted much more clearly and effectively.
Conclusion, i end it with a summarized equation of the above matter.
Discussion in peace = Problem solve + relationship increase (better understanding of each other).
p/s: just my 2cents view anyway. Like i said earlier what is appropriate for me might just not be appropriate for you. Just here to share my thoughts ^^
Cheers,
Val
(val)what a gd comment of urs, val.
I appreciate it...^^Thank you...
One hand won't claps...haha...
Chill... and cheers :) Nothing wrong to lecture your brother and sister to be a better person. Just be patient, cause it takes time to understand what you've done for them is for their own good.
(hyperX)ya...so i jz have to be patience...n try to control my temper...
i had read through this post and also feel that sometime when we are motivating or teeaching someone whoever your friends or relatives, they may not very agree of our point, and instead they will think of why we say like this as mean of disagreement of what we are saying. as a consequence, they are quarelling us.....so how....? just let it be,,,,in one family, sometime will be misunderstood among the family member, disatisfaction, disagreement or other that you and i maynot know what they (person) think right? especially the youth (sibling).they are still a teenage and may not know what we are actually talking..but never mind, cos one day they will know as time goes on and also the maturityof them. this is my view, hope you can take a bit lo haha....><....
1 nt every thing u wish is perfect. nothin is perfect in this world. all of us hv advan & disadvan
2 they didnt hear i is they lose. bcz advice is alwas the right thing
3 in family, better don say beat me o hit me. this will make your relationship bcum far~~~
4 they didnt respect u mean they unsatisfying u.
PS: when sumthing happen. u don try to help them. let them solve the problem by them self. if realy cnt solve by them self then u help them. let them have a lesson for it...
人类是一个愚蠢的动物，当要失去的时后才来珍惜。
well, we r still young rite? there's still a lot of things we nid to noe and to solve in the future..so why dont u try to take it lightly? jz threat it as a small matter first. Who noes there's a bigger problem waiting for us?
(slliew)shun qi zi ran...hoh?Just do our part, the other let Jesus do the work...
(han)actually they'll not know they are wrong if no one tell them so...Bcz everyone have their own attitude and behaviour..no one will think that their behaviour gt problem unless smth terrible happen...anyway, jz let it be...Now, the problem is in myself...
(anonymous)ya...we are still young...there'll be more obstacles ahead of us...anyway, learn from mistakes..I'm alright now...I write this post is actually wanting to let others know that when this thing happens, what shld we do...and not following my way...haha...I'm a bad example...
Thanks for every comments...I'm glad to have all of u in my life...
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